Are you having a hard time breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you keep bringing up the subject of your marriage, but you just can’t seem to tell your spouse that you want a divorce?
I had a client who was a power couple. One was a partner in a law firm, the other a well-known doctor in San Diego. They lost millions in their divorce. Both declared bankruptcy.
Another couple I know who were married for 25 years, one was a celebrity, the other owned his own company— managed to become better friends and not lose any money during their divorce.
Divorce itself is not the culprit. It’s HOW you do divorce.
In this video, I’m going to walk you through a revolutionary new way of breaking up and asking for a divorce that will save you thousands of dollars in lawyers fees, moving costs, therapy and heart-ache.
First, I’m going to go through the DON’T’s:
- Don’t say, “Honey, we need to talk…”
- You don’t need to talk. You’re choosing to talk
- Don’t say, “Something’s missing… (in our relationship)”
- Because then you’re forcing that person to shop inside your mind…. “Well, what’s missing? Sex, a bigger house, do we need have a baby?”
- You’re leading them on an endless shopping spree.
- Don’t say, “We’re just not right for each other.”
- That means that there’s something wrong with me
- Or, there’s something wrong with you
Notice in all 3 of these DON’Ts— that you are presenting a problem. If you present a problem, what’s the other person going to do? Solve it. There goes your “break-up” conversation!
It also happens the other way around. Where what you really want is just to fix this one little thing about the person, but instead you end up having a conversation to break up with them. Well, your hair is too long, so… maybe we should just break up. Don’t throw away the Lexus because it has a flat tire! We tend to go in the exact opposite direction of what we truly want— when it comes to love. So let me show you how to have the break-up conversation—- going forward, not backwards.
(Please see script in video)
Call Vicky. Don’t put down a $10K retainer for a divorce attorney.
- Remain friends
- Do it with love
- Keep your money
- Grow together
