A guy at the gym is super in love with my super hot friend… And so he asked me, “How can I get her attention?”
I was like, “I believe it was Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī who said, “Sell your cleverness and purchase bewilderment.”
He asked me, “What do you mean by that?”
So I stood right in front of him and said, “What if I did this to you?! All these little tricks! Would you be sexually attracted to me?”
If I simply observed and witnessed in silence as though i were contemplating… sacred geometry, then could you not feel my soul? What makes beauty blossom is appreciation, and when you appreciate a woman’s beauty, she will feel more beautiful… with you, then with any other man.”
So he’s looking at me and he asks, “Okay.. so your practical advice is…?”
Zip it! Stop talking! You’re ruining the moment. If at all possible, especially if you are a chatter box, believe it or not there are men— when they’re excited… they will just keep talking! You know what is most attractive to women, honestly… we’re in a gym— if you would, work out in a way that shows your courtesy, your honor or your character….
Women want to see non-verbal actions which demonstrate CHARACTER.
Or… you can play guitar and you sing. Singing is better than speaking. Being strong is better than speaking. Dancing is better than speaking. What I’m trying to get to you is… speech is the lowest and most primitive form of communication for humans and when you want to develop serendipity and attraction, don’t use speech. Use anything but… visuals, smell, touch, taste, cook something! But anything that reflects your character as a man that is nonverbal— BINGO!!
Even if you just rode up on a white horse… anything… just BE a man. Don’t talk your way there.
