“How to Make Your New Year’s Resolution” with Vicky Lee
Happy New Year! Welcome to 2014, the Year of the Horse. Last year, was the year of the snake which meant caution, think twice, don’t do that. This year, the year of the Horse… means moving forward, take action and don’t look back. This is the best year to make a New Years Resolution because anything you set in motion this year… is going to take off!
There’s a right way and a wrong way to do that. You know the wrong way… Jus’ say you’re gonna do sumthang, try it and it don’t work out. The right way… is to make a very simple vision map of your New Years resolution. I’m going to show you how in this video.
You will need a worksheet, vision cards and a silk pouch to carry your vision cards in.
Step 1:
The very first thing you are going to do… is forgive yourself for a boo-boo or a no-no you did last year, that you don’t want to repeat again this year. Because if you don’t forgive yourself, you’re doomed to repeat yourself. And it defeats the purpose of having NEW year’s resolution if you keep repeating what’s old.
What don’t you want to repeat from last year? How about???? Not being single. That’s perfect! Let’s just write that down. “NOT be in a serious long-term committed relationship”
Now you are going to list the reasons why you are forgiving yourself. The reasons why your soul CHOSE not to be in a serious long-term relationship?
For example, “I never meet anyone, not financially stable yet, i’m not super good looking, people need to get to know me first….” From that little list, you get an “aha” moment… “Oh my gosh… the true me hasn’t emerged yet! You make your first vision card with your first aha moment. Which is the spiritual reason why you’re single.
Step 2:
Then, you think deep and hard…. about a concrete example of your aha moment… how you don’t let your true self emerge? For example, “I don’t have a work routine, a love routine, a living routine, a health routine… My true self needs routines to structure how I want to live my truth.”
Look at cha! You’re like a free willy! How do people know WHEN to date you? You don’t have a set work schedule. How do people know WHERE to date you? You travel too much. How do people know HOW to date you? You don’t have any life plans.
1st vision card:That’s your 2nd aha moment— that there’s nothing about you that screams SETTLE DOWN. Now that you know why you were stuck in the year of the snake… you can just let it go.
Step 3:
What’s your no-no? “NOT being in a serious long term committed relationship.” What’s your yes-yes? “To BE in a serious long term committed relationship.”
All the reasons why you were single, just flip it over and write the opposite in this column. So you go from, “Never meeting anyone who wants to commit”…. to “meeting someone who wants to commit.” From “not super good looking,” to “meeting someone who thinks I’m super good looking.”
And then you have a third “aha” moment! “Oh my gosh…. If I allowed my true self to emerge and had a set routine, I would attract and commit to a man who’s lifestyle is compatible with mine!”
Now, you know if you did this step right if you read this and it makes you think, “That is soooo my problemo. Like, every man I meet who I fall in love with or he’s perfect— he just won’t commit… and the reason is ALWAYS… because his lifestyle is not compatible with mine.”
2nd vision card: That is called your New Year’s Resolution Mantra. This alone, will change your whole year because the way that we wrote it was an exact match to your karmic DNA. In the year of the snake, you were hard-wired to believe that no man would commit to you… but this mantra un-does all your wiring and shows you that what’s really true… is that a man who share your lifestyle will commit to you. But no one can figure out what your lifestyle is, because you don’t have any routines!
Step 4:
Your next step is that you are going to commit to creating what you want. The way you do that is by identifying what you were doing BEFORE in the year of the snake and what you’re committing to do NOW in the year of the horse?
- Before: no routines
- Now: Set routines
You don’t have the foundation for a serious long term relationship. You have the foundation for a casual short term interaction. When you do that, you have your 4th big “aha” moment…. “When I get serious, I attract men who are serious.”
This seems like common sense, but it’s not. Like, your ex boyfriend broke up with you cuz he thinks you’re not serious about building your life. He just can’t see it. And you’re like, “What???? I’m so committed to my career, what are you talking about???” But he can’t see that. Because you have no routines!!! As soon as you have routine, he thinks you’re serious. You might not be serious… but that’s not the message you are giving off to men!
3rd vision card: You’re going to sum it all up in a nutshell. Your “no” abundance rule and your “yes” abundance rule.
And you’re going to have this little saying here…. that you can use to rebuff people who want to seduce and steer you off track! And it reminds you to listen to your inner guidance and get yourself unstuck… from the year of the snake and move you forward into the year of the horse!
