Has the story of your life has been one disappointment after another? Bankruptcy, divorce, alcoholism, abusive relationships, unemployment.
Do you ever ask yourself WHY did you have to go through all of that? Why was your life so difficult?
Right now, I’m going to save you the trouble of spending thousands of dollars in expensive therapist’s office or the travel and hotel cost of spending a week at a renowned institute to solve your burning question— and instead I’m going to take you through a simple 7-step process that will answer all your questions about WHY you had to go through so many difficult experiences in your life.
Step #1: Write down why your life sucks. Complete this sentence, “Because I’ve had a difficult life….” Let me give you some examples:
- I can’t trust anyone
- I’ve been single for 20 years
- I became an alcoholic
- I had to raise 4 kids, all on my own
Your list might be, “I have cancer, I’m overweight. I’m depressed. I’m broke.”
Step #2: Acknowledge that things happened the way they were supposed to. Complete this statement, “The reason why_________ is because it was supposed to.”
- The reason why I can’t trust anyone is because I wasn’t supposed to trust anyone.
- The reason why I’ve been single for 20 years is because I was supposed to be single.
- The reason why I became an alcoholic is because I was supposed to be an alcoholic.
- The reason why I had to raise 4 kids, all on my own is because I was supposed to be a single mother.
Step #3: Acknowledge the circumstances that you were in and then say, “So YES, I was…”
- The reason why I don’t trust anyone is because I wasn’t supposed to. My husband was beating me. I was being evicted from my home… So YES, I was paranoid.
- The reason why I’ve been single for 20 years is because I was supposed to be single. I was going through some deep shit in my life. It was the dark night of my soul. I needed God more than I needed a mate. So YES, I was lonely.
- The reason why I became an alcoholic is because I was supposed to be an alcoholic. Everyone around me was drinking and escaping. I couldn’t relate to any of them and these were my people, my community, my only source of support. So YES, I was depraved.
- The reason why I had to raise 4 kids, all on my own is because I was supposed to be a single mother. My kids needed me. I chose not to abandon them. So YES, I was self-sacrificing.
If you are sitting at home, you can now answer your own question. WHY has my life been so paranoid, lonely, depraved and self-sacrificing? Because I had to survive. Write that down on your paper, “Because I had to survive.”
Survival on a purely physical level—- leads to great spiritual rewards. So your next step is to find out—- what spiritual rewards did I gain from all this difficulty in my life?
Step #4: What did you gain from your experience spiritually? Complete this statement, “Instead of_____I had to be_____ and that’s how I_____.”
- Instead of trusting, I had to be paranoid and that’s how I developed awareness.
- Instead of being in a relationship, I had to be lonely and that’s how I found God.
- Instead of being sober, I had to be depraved and that’s how I gained empathy.
- Instead of being married, I had to be self-sacrificing and that’s how I became a humanitarian.
Step 5 is acknowledging this. Acknowledging the real reason why your life was so difficult. This is the tricky part because I want you to answer this from the perspective of your soul.
Step #5: Acknowledge the real reason why your life was so difficult. Complete this statement, “____ was a stepping stone for_____.”
- The reason why I don’t trust people is because I wasn’t supposed to. If I was on the front lines of a war, I’m supposed to be paranoid. Paranoia was a stepping stone for me to become aware.
- The reason why I was not in a relationship for 20 years is because I wasn’t supposed to be. When a soul is in the midst of an intense spiritual pilgrimage (Think: Siddhartha, Jesus, Ghandi) the depth and breadth of intimacy is between my soul and God, alone. No man should come between the 2 of us. Loneliness was a stepping stone to a spiritual marraige with my own soul.
- The reason why I was an alcoholic is because I was supposed to be. When a leader decides to save her community—- she must become as depraved as the people whom she is trying to save. Depravity was a stepping stone to empathy. Think of MLK, he had to understand the demons that he was ridding the world of. How can you help someone if you haven’t been in their shoes?
- The reason why I was a single mother is because I was supposed to be. I had to give ALL my attention to nurturing human life. Think: Mother Teresa. Remaining single and self-sacrificing was a stepping stone to becoming a Humanitarian.
Step #6: Acknowledge what your human experience was.
Human experience has been = paranoid, lonely, depraved, self-sacrificing.
Step #7: Compare that to your spiritual experience.
Spiritual experience. = Awareness, spiritual marraige, empathy, humanitarian.
I know many people who spent $8,000 a week at the Hoffman Institute or at Esalen, PSI seminars or the Chopra Center— just to get the answer to why their life was so difficult. When you get there, all the phd psychologists make you go through you entire childhood for 3 days and finally they get to the meat of it. You can get to the meat of it with my vision mapping process in about 30 minutes or less.
In the next video, I want to show you even more— about why you’re life was so difficult and how to make it easier. Please share this video on your Facebook Page or Youtube channel and help me to keep helping others heal themselves. Thank you.
