Why are you still single? Do you hear that all the time? Do you look at some married people and wonder, “Why are they married?” when you — have a lot more to offer? You’re doing something…. that is not attracting commitment. You’re not attracting somebody who wants to commit to you. I’m going to give you step by step instructions in this video about how to attract commitment.
So first I want to answer this question, if you’re asking the Universe, “Why am I still single?” The answer is. The life you want, is the life you have: Freedom. You’re free to pick and choose who you want to date and do anything you want on dates. Sleep in on Sunday mornings, travel, go dancing.
- Freedom = doing what you want.
- Commitment— is the exact opposite of freedom.
Commitment is not picking and choosing who you want to date or doing whatever you want— it’s doing what you’re committed to— pay the bills, get the kids to school on time. How do you attract commitment? How do you attract the opposite of freedom?
- Commitment = discipline
- You have to have a routine of discipline.
For example, pick anything that you want to be disciplined at. Then, make it a routine. You can tell if someone’s ready to commit or not. The more they are ready, the higher your interest level is. They seem like they have more to offer. You have to be that person who seems like you have more to offer.
There are 4 ways to attract commitment:
- So if you want to be disciplined at working out, then make it mandatory, not optional. And do it, as part of your routine.
- Another way to be disciplined is to commit to be successful in a career that you are passionate about. Utilize your gifts. If you have a gift for listening, then listen more. If you have a gift for singing, then sing more. And again, make it a routine!
- Aspire to achieve your dreams. Don’t just talk about your dreams. Do it!
Most people who are on the active search or hunt for love are going to go to bars, nightclubs, vacations, Coachella, Vegas– because it makes logical sense that if you’re in a leisurely social setting— you’re gonna meet other people who are searching for love. But you’re only going to meet people who are searching for fun (hugh heffner, old fogies) not the work it takes to build commitment.
- Dating = fun
- Commitment = work
So you have to make the work you do in your life, enjoyable. And then you will attract and meet other people who want to do the work with you of building a life together. If you want temporary pleasure, then date and have fun! If you want commitment, then make your life’s work (the physical work, emotional work, mental work, spiritual work,) a joy.
