Do you have a lot of pain? It could be financial pain such as bankruptcy, emotional pain such as depression, mental pain such as stress or spiritual pain such as a midlife crisis.
In this video, I want to show you how to deal with your pain and turn it into something rewarding.
Pain is a personal conversation between you and God.
There are 2 ways to experience pain:
- In-voluntary (Someone inflicts pain on you.)
- Voluntary (Because you have compassion on someone, you feel their pain with them.)
Either way, there is wisdom in pain. Lessons that you cannot receive in any other way because pain breaks you.
- Physical pain (working out) = Grows your body
- Emotional pain (crying) = Grows your love
- Mental pain (overcoming hardship) = Grows your confidence
- Spiritual pain (being humbled) = Grows your power
Right here, is what God is trying to do when He puts you in pain. The way to get out of your pain is to embrace the conversation God is trying to have with you— through your pain.
First, write down where your pain is coming from:
- My divorce
- My hip
Second, write down how that pain is making you feel:
- powerless
- crippled
Third, fill in the blank.
- God is using ________ as a way to talk to me about _________
- God is using my divorce as a way to talk to me about powerlessness.
- God is using my hip as a way to talk to me about feeling crippled.
Fourth step is to fill in the blank:
- God is trying to talk to me about ____________. That’s why I’m going through ______
- God is trying to talk to me about powerlessness. That’s why I’m going through such a painful divorce.
- God is trying to talk to me about feeling crippled. That’s why I’m having a problem with my hip.
Identify what type of pain it is:
- Is it physical, emotional, mental or spiritual?
- Powerlessness is mental pain.
- Hip problem is a physical pain.
So write that down next to your statement. So according to my mini vision map here, if I’m going through mental pain, I’m growing my confidence— right?
This is how I would fill in this statement:
- God is allowing me to ____________ through _____________
- God is allowing me to grow my confidence through this divorce.I know that I’m growing my confidence because I’m experiencing powerlessness.
Elite athletes deliberately deprive their muscles of oxygen and that’s when their blood vessels engorge—- so when they feel that TERRIBLE pain in their bicep, they know that their muscles are growing.
So when you experience powerlessness, that’s how you know your confidence is growing. It’s just a signal for you to know that mentally—- you are becoming stronger and bigger.
So let’s go to our 2nd source of pain. According to my vision map, if I’m going through physical pain, I’m growing my body, right?
- God is allowing me to grow my body through my hip problem.
- I know that my body is growing because I’m experiencing feeling crippled.
When I feel crippled, that’s how you know your body is growing. It’s outgrowing your bones and muscles and joints and it needs to expand in order to function better.
Now, the trick here is to not get stuck or trapped in the pain, but to move through it quickly and meaningfully. So your next step is to overcome the pain.
- You have to turn powerlessness into confidence.
- You have to turn feeling crippled into a stronger body.
This is the conversation with God.
God, what do you want to tell me about confidence? Listen to your pain. Listen to the feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness. What is it telling you?
- That I need to rely on a man to rescue me.
- That I can’t solve my own financial issues.
- That I can’t survive on my own.
I want you to write in big bold markers, “NOT TRUE” next to each statement.
Let’s go to the next one. God, what do you want to tell me about my body? Listen to you pain. Listen to the feelings of being crippled. What is it telling you?
- That I am getting old and weak.
- That I need someone to push me around in a wheelchair.
- That I can’t walk on my own.
Stamp those statements with the words, “NOT TRUE.” What’s the opposite of these statement?
- I need to rely on MYSELF to rescue me.
- I can absolutely solve my own financial issues.
- I AM surviving on my own.
Stamp each of those statements with, “HERE’S MY OPPORTUNITY!” = Divorce! What’s the opposite of these other statements?
- I am getting younger and stronger.
- I need to push other people around in a wheelchair, for once.
- I AM walking on my own, right now.
Stamp each of those statements with, “HERE’S MY OPPORTUNITY!” = Hip problem!
Next is your action step. Turn it around!!! Do all the things you know and believe is God’s purpose for you pain. His purpose for your pain is to turn it around!!! Grow your confidence. Grow your body!! Be, do and have more! This is your opportunity. Use your pain to have a conversation with God and move forward in your life!
If you need me to walk you through this, please call me for a Free Success Strategy Session.
