Are you struggling with being depressed? Right now, you can’t figure out what the meaning of your life or if you are on the right path? Do you feel like giving up? You know when you’re giving up when you start turning towards alcohol, sex or drugs from time to time. Do you feel that there’s no hope?
Well no matter how much positive thinking, therapy, exercise or self-medication you’re trying to do on a daily basis—- you probably not going to magically snap out of it. That’s because depression is a like a heavy weight that you cannot lift. It’s bigger than you.
The secret why you are depressed is this: When you believe that you have nothing to offer, nothing left to give— the world or someone else,
- you have no meaning
- no purpose
- no value
- and you feel like you will never be loved
So people who are depressed are people who were once rich, and then went bankrupt. Once young and now old. Once beautiful and now scarred or mis-shapen. You used to have something to give, but now you have nothing. And there’s no reason for you to live, anymore—- You’re isolated. You’re alone. If you have nothing to give, you will have no relationships. It’s like being in jail or in isolated confinement. You’re completely alone.
To cope with depression, this is what you do. You:
- become a workaholic
- alcoholic
- sex or love addict
- create drama or tragedy in your life
- become a victim
- start living through other people
This:
- (victim) gets you attention — Before you were isolated and now that people are helping you, you have some form of relationship
- (alcoholic, workaholic) creates a challenge that you can overcome—- so now your life has meaning
- (love addict) allows you to give/ receive love
All of this does not solve the underlying problem. The heart of your depression is that you believe that you have nothing to offer or to give the world or someone else.
Happiness— which is the cure to depression, but there’s 4 levels of it:
- pleasure (physical)
- contentment (emotional)
- fulfillment (mental)
- joy (spiritual)
Depression is a spiritual disease. The cure is joy. And the only way we can feel JOY is by giving back. If you want to cure your depression, you have to find a way to GIVE back.
- What is your gift? What do you have to offer the world? Start small. Maybe it’s that you’re a good cook. Cook for people. Cook for your parents. Cook for your kids. Go to a homeless shelter and volunteer to cook.
- Maybe you’re smart. You’re super smart at business. Go mentor a start-up or find a young protege who needs your experience and wisdom.
- Maybe you’re an athlete. Start training people, start with your sister or your mother. Watch how you can change their bodies and improve their lives with your skills.
This will fulfill something that you’re lacking which you need, such as:
- attention
- relationships
- meaning
- give/receive love
Do something to give. It’s the magical cure for depression. And if you do that, you will also open up the doors of opportunity to find your life path and the reason why God put you on this earth. Giving will help you find a life path which will give you:
- relationships
- meaning & purpose
- love
